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School-Connect's SEL Integration Guide PREVIEW

Centered around School-Connect’s seven "SEL Essentials," our new 60-page guide has helpful, user-friendly strategies for integrating SEL into academic classes, sports, staff interactions, and community outreach. Distilling School-Connect down to the basic elements that bind SEL skills and outcomes, the guide provides guidance for integrating the following skills sets into school life:

① EARS Active Listening

Eye contact [varies with culture]

Acknowledge that you are listening and Ask open-ended questions. (Nod and say "mm-hmm". Ask questions without a "yes" or "no" answer.)

Refl ect feelings. ["Sounds as if you’re feeling (or you felt)_______________."]

Say in your own words what you heard the person say, and confi rm. ["So you think that _________________. Is that right?"]


② Collaborating Effectively

• Provide equal opportunities to speak.

• Presume positive intent.

• Be open-minded to the opinions of others.

• Speak your truth.

• Disagree without being disagreeable. (E.g., watch tone of voice and word choice, address issue without attacking the person, use active listening, manage emotions, propose a compromise.)


③ Empathizing with Others

• Recognize how another person is feeling.

• Take the person’s perspective (stand in the person’s shoes).

• Feel what the person is feeling.


④ Bouncing Back from Setbacks

➢ Cultivate curiosity & interest in what you’re learning.

➢ Increase your effort; don’t underestimate your ability.

➢ Learn from failure, and apply its lessons.

➢ Talk to yourself to guide your learning. ("I’m not great at this YET, but I can get better with effort.")

➢ Learn from role models and mentors


⑤ Managing Emotions

Choose the strategies that work best for you.

• Time out (remove yourself from the situation).

• Breathe deeply ("belly breathing").

• Use positive self-talk ("I know I can do this.")

• Identify the emotion (anger, anxiety, etc.).

• Flip the script (reassess the situation).

• Talk it out with an understanding friend or adult.

• Walk it out.

• Write it out (journal about your feelings).

• Take a mindful moment.

• Envision a peaceful scene (a "happy place")


⑥ Goal-Setting & Achievement

1. Choose your goal & write it down.

2. Use "why?" thinking.
Why is this important to you?

3. Use "what?" thinking.
What do you need to do to achieve your goal?

4. Write down the steps you need to take to reach your goal.
Be specifi c. Include what, when, and where.

5. Prepare for obstacles and have a plan to overcome them.

6. Post a visual reminder of your goal.


SOLVE Problem-Solving Steps

Stop and think.
What am I feeling? How can I get ready to problem-solve?

Objectively state the problem.
What is the problem from each person’s viewpoint?

List possible options and outcomes.
What are some solutions? What are likely consequences?

Voice your choice and act.
What is the optimal solution? How should I/we act on it?

Evaluate and adjust.
Is it working? If not, what can I/we do now?


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